I am frequently astounded when people post hate-spewing diatribes against unnamed but “you know who you are” friends on Facebook. Leaving aside the issue of the right time and place for everything, Why even converse with (or spew at) people who you don’t care for?
If we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with (thank you Jim Rohn), then why on earth would you choose to surround yourself with any less than the very best of people, either online or off? Here are a few ways that I ensure that my online life is filled with productive and positive people.
As I have mentioned before, I must have rules in my life or else I tend to get carried away and say yes to everything (including several unfortunate shopping incidents). So I have created a set of rules that guide my online interactions and make my life generally pleasant and upbeat. While these might not good rules for you, I do hope they serve to get you cogitating about how you approach your social media persona so you don’t become non grata.
I have two rules for accepting friend requests on Facebook 1) I have to know your middle name or 2) I have to know something that I could potentially blackmail you with. WOW! Didn’t I say we are the average…etc. and here I am discussing blackmail–how hypocritical is that?
Not at all, I simple think that we all behave a little nicer if there are things we would prefer not have made public (and that may include middle names in some cases). The point isn’t that I ever will blackmail someone, it’s just that I know them well enough to have some “dirt” on them and most likely, conversely, they probably have some dirt on me.
As for those who spew at others? Everyone gets one “get out of jail free card” and then they come off my friends list. Life is just too short. But because I have been so diligent in following my home-grown rules, I can proudly say I’ve only removed two people from my list in as many years.
Next week I’ll explain my entirely different set of connective rules for LinkedIn.